My friends love to tag me on random things on social media. Whether is something completely hilarious or extremely controversial, they always keep me running to social media after I see a tagged notification. Last week, a friend of mine tagged me in something that I could have found disturbing but instead it was heart wrenching. Colorism is still alive and well.
Lil Kim uploaded multiple selfies of herself on Instagram. As we all know, there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking a few selfies but what was astonishing about hers was that she was completely unrecognizable. The woman everyone was seeing was completely white washed. Her complexion was similar to a Caucasian with a butter pecan tan. I honestly didn’t know if I was looking at Lil Kim or Justin Beiber. #NoShade. Black woman, what did you to yourself?
Lil Kim has addressed her low self-esteem in previous interviews and she came forth about plastic surgery. She started to be unrecognizable years ago when she started altering her face and body. She went from a brown skin beauty to a vanilla vixen in a short period of time. 90’s Lil Kim and millennium Lil Kim are physically two different people. It hurt to see that she didn’t feel comfortable in her own skin Black Woman, you were always beautiful.
I dare not bash someone who is desperately searching to be comfortable with themselves. That’s clearly what this woman is doing. She has been doing her best to feel good about who she is and as the mother of a young daughter, I’m sure she wants her daughter to grow up differently than she did. I’ve been there. The chocolate one on the scene trying to fit in a predominately white school and no one being able to relate to my everyday life. The fact that I couldn’t wake up and go with my hair unkempt, why Dep gel was never good me, why I couldn’t find my shade of concealer in Target, and nude dance tights never matched my legs, showed over and over who I was compared to the light girls. Our job as people is to keep our youth encouraged about who they are and our peers motivated to share what they’ve been through and why they are comfortable in themselves. Black woman, you are more than enough!
My dark skin does not dictate to who I am. My character is enough. I’m not pretty for a black girl nor am sassy for no reason. I am beautiful for melanin’s sake. My sisters are extraordinary because they’ve worked to be so. Our mothers are strong because they’ve always had to be. Our children will be well equipped because we have prepared them. The lines of color will fade with time and light will be of the sign and the dark will be of the moon. Black woman, you have arrived!
*You’re Welcome for the Memo*
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