When you’re younger, quantity means everything. The more toys and games you have, the more cool you are. The more bike tips and tricks you have, the more you’re seen as the best. The more friends you have, the more it solidifies how popular and liked you are. More is so much better in your adolescence. When you’re a kid, you don’t care about how it is, you care about what it is and how much of it you can get. Quality is null and void.
It takes maturing and a clear set of eyes to snap out of the more is better phase. Growth doesn’t work that way. Have you ever seen a flower grow from under a boulder? That boulder would be too heavy to give that flower enough room to grow to its full potential. Getting rid of the boulders in your life would allow you to grow into the person you are meant to be. At some point, growth is needed. You have to let go!
To Let Go is to release. Here’s are 5 Things you need to let go in order to start your growth process:
1) Toxic Friends- You’re not a kid anymore. That friend that you’ve been friends with since elementary school that used to get you in trouble on the playground is now that grown adult that is still getting you into unnecessary sticky situations. That friend that uses you when they are bored to have a good time but can never listen to your problems when you need an unbiased ear. That friend that constantly changes the subject every time you talk about important life matters. That friend that can share a drink with you but can never talk about God and the future with you. They all need to go. None of it means you well. You know it but they’ve been a part of you for so long that you don’t know how to let them go. Distance yourself slowly and watch the dead weight fall off.
2) Old habits- The saying go that old habits die hard. Habit are hard to get rid of. They start as something small and then they grow to be a part of you and often a part of what makes you who you are or known for you who are. If you make it a habit to get frisky with someone at the bar every time you go out, you’ll be known for that and it will be a part of your going out routine. Is that who you want to be? If you don’t want to be known for your filthy habits, you need to change them. Who wants to be a 60 year old bar rat who binge drinks and hits on randoms twice their junior? Stop!
3) Where you should be- Life takes us all in a million different directions and none of it can be predicted. Its not you’re fault that you set out to be established by a certain point in your life and you’re still struggling to get their while everyone else seems to be already there. Progress is a slow process. You have to move at your own pace. It’s you’re life and its what you make it.
Bonus: Just because it looks good on the outside doesn’t mean its good on the inside. People will only show you what’s good. The bad gets hidden like a dirty little secret. Everyone has skeletons in the closet honey!
4) Irresponsibility- Adulting is annoying. However, it has to be done. At some point in your life, you have to learn that paying a bill in full is more important than a night out with friends. Stability is a requirement at this point. If you’re friends are real with themselves, they will be doing the same thing. Budget and Prioritize. Spending your whole paycheck on your wardrobe might be fun but how cool will it be when you’re closet is a whole park because you’re sleeping on a bench due to eviction.
5) Placing Blame- News Flash: People can only do what your ALLOW them to do. Granted, things can randomly happen that are out of your control but for the most part you’re in charge of your own life and what happens in it. Stop blaming that person for how they treated you and why you treat others a certain way. You ALLOWED that person to manipulate and abuse you for so long. It’s not fair to keep blaming them because you allowed them to change who you are. At any time, if you’re uncomfortable with a situation, you have to change it. They may have been the initial cause of what went wrong but they aren’t the reason things still aren’t right. Assume responsibility for what goes on in your life and then change you’re destiny. You’re the captain of the ship. Steer it the way you want.
Growing takes time and will. Recognize your worth. You’re better than where you are. You deserve every bit of where you’re trying to go. You have to let go in order to move forward. This isn’t an iron man competition. You don’t have to keep a million pounds of burden on your back to make it over the finish line. Shed it. You’ll be better for it.
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